Girlfriend-razluchnitsa: urgently find and neutralize!

The theme of betrayal itself is very painful.

But the most difficult and scary to go through it, when the beloved best friend goes to. It's a terrible story with a multitude of issues. Who's who has withdrawn, someone who betrayed and betrayed you? What's more - love or friendship?

Forgiving? Or hate life?

To understand why this happens and how to avoid it, we helped a family psychologist, Irina geshtaltpsihoterapevt OVANESYANTS.

How not to push them together

- Unfortunately, the situation where the husband or the gentleman falls in love with your girlfriend quite often. And then the two extremes are bad. Some women had pre-deprive themselves of all her friends, for fear of competition. Others unwittingly pushing people close to each other.

How does this happen?

A woman or girl truly loves his girlfriend, perhaps they are familiar with the school years. She wants the appearance of her husband's girlfriend left her closest circle. The men first wives are friend with a share of jealousy and skepticism.

And his wife's girlfriend begins to crack up: and then that she showed herself, and there won. Both men mad about her, and prepares it perfectly! Sometimes it works a complex of self-doubt. They say, look, I'm friends with some means, and I myself was. Girlfriend while she talks about what she beautiful man.

And enjoy the feeling that everything in life is possible. She is the best man, the best friend. She loves all. Its all love. In reality, a friend and a man begins to look closely to each other. Everyone thinks: Is this man is so good? And the main character also enhances their mutual interest, arranging joint gatherings and then quoting one flattering statements about him other.

The second case, the opposite - it is jealousy.

My wife too jealous girlfriend. Always make comments when I looked, I said. And it begins to pour dirt on her friend, saying that she had a lot of men, and it's so-and-so. And my husband is also generates interest: that these other men have found in it, which I did not notice?

If the wife will start to complain, and even to her friend, saying, I do not like my looks at you, mutual interest is guaranteed! - Says Irina Ovanesyants. - However, it is possible that his wife is jealous justified. And something feels. After all, there are even special types of friends, with whom the family is better not to talk. Or do it carefully.

The star of the musical "Metro" Katya Maslovskaya (pictured right) lost her husband Paul Maikova "thanks" to her friend actress Masha Saffo (pictured left).

Hazardous Valais

  Damned wretch

It is easily recognized by the bright appearance, arrogant, a quizzical look on life. She always tries to be the center of attention. The soul is not confident in myself, but apparently it seems very self-sufficient and strong. She is very committed to ensuring that the pass for the benchmark.

So loudly declares that never discourage cavalier with a friend. But it is worth it to be close to an attractive man, he immediately begins to ogle a loud laugh and make fun of all.

This particular friend. As a rule, it selects women for friendship, her opposite in temperament and appearance. In a relationship it is always a little down his favorite girlfriend what some sarcastic jokes, can put her in an uncomfortable light - especially tries to men.

Thus it rises in their eyes by a friend. And if she is offended, she immediately: "Oh, what are you, I'm joking." It owns all kinds of manipulation of the nastiest: behind says one thing and the eye - the other, provokes her husband "playful" remarks such as "Yes, I'm asking you, you're a famous henpecked! ".

- Man, especially if not too smart, catches a trick, - says Irina. - And one can go to that bitch, especially when it puts the goal. What is most surprising, as soon as he would come to her, she can oust him - because she had to assert himself, the man she was not very much and need.

And to his faithful friend to come with a bottle of wine and the words: "All men - the goats! I threw him out because our friendship ... blah blah blah ... "Even a be proud, and life to learn. But the first party will take up the old.

"Vest"

It is quiet, diffident, soft woman, who a hundred years goes to the best friend had a very active, fun and cheerful flirtatious. There is usually a great husband. And he occasionally gets to the nuts from his beloved. And then it becomes a friend of someone like plakatelnoy vests.

"Vest" supports them both, sometimes reconciles can help with the housework, look after the cat-child. And increasingly, it gets heartfelt conversations with her husband by type: Well, you see, your wife - a bright, it is not up to you, accept it, be patient ... My husband is generated complex - he may not suspect that he was so hard, He described the situation as a "vest".

As a result, the husband starts to look at the "vest" as a weak woman who understands him and needed his care - especially if one lives. And one day, circumstances may arise so that his wife asked him to help the very poor girlfriend - shelf there came home from shopping a ride and ends up in bed care. And begin a strange nervous attitude.

Most likely, from his wife, he will not go away, and the "vest" will secretly love and suffer. But if the wife holds her husband in the shadows, it is the little gray mouse and can take her betrothed to her borsch, meatballs and care. However, such a union can survive for long.

Tatiana Ovsiyenko stole from her husband's girlfriend Irina Allegrova - producer Vladimir Dubovitskij.

Thrift

It is rare, but the most dangerous case - when the wife of friendship with pure plant of interest in her husband. A calculating woman charming, courteous, intelligent and nice to talk to her. It easily becomes a friend of the house. Talks about his lover to his wife transgressed all suspicion.

And her husband, she is like as a friend. Talking with them on topics of interest to him, demonstrating knowledge in this area (prepared!). Cleverly it flattering - "Listen, you're a genius! "Makes it clear that others - including his wife - because of its lack of development simply do not realize what great talent (or handsome) in front of them!

And always show it, he understands it better than anyone else. They can go to smoke together. And here it will give him some information about his weakness or some jamb what she had learned from his wife. And to express something like support. Like, do not worry.

But it will show him that his wife can not be trusted. But this woman - you can! She won both of his understanding. And besides, so many men around her curls. With a calculated fight is very difficult, because it is difficult to calculate. She knows how to behave and how his wife - her husband. This is a player who makes big bets.

It is not enough just to sleep - she had to withdraw! If you suspect something, she can defiantly continue to "make friends" with her husband to get you started to roll his tantrums. And she would have reaped the fruits of your contentions. Therefore, it is necessary to become a rival to the experienced commander and not give way to resentment.

Start with her husband to regret it - that, they say, the poor, the lonely, useless. Forced to come up with a lover, and she was crying into my pillow at night. The most interesting - the way it is ...