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Everything happens almost Tsvetaeva:
"Yesterday has looked into the eyes, and now all the glances in the direction." The reason why the husband avoids views, bitter and merciless: love another. What to do? Cry, appeal to conscience, think again plead?
Or maybe still fulfill his request: "Let me go, unclench his hand? .." The story is as old as the world: to live happily ever after, and suddenly he had the other woman. And you're from "single" became the "third wheel".
It hopes that the wife visited a passing fancy, no man seriously and thoroughly, he does not hide the feelings arose. You re-read pile of literature from the series "How to win back the love of her rival and her husband," but effective ways never found. Let's try to learn from the experience of women passed this way ...
The game is ahead of the curve
Lena and Sasha's marriage two years old son Temko less. Hike to the registrar was not preceded by a beautiful love story, Alexander sympathized with punchy blonde who came to conquer the capital, but as a potential homemakers it is not considered. He was planning to start a family with a girl who lived in a small town hundreds of kilometers away.
Lena knew that "it is not thrown out the window lilacs," but not going so easy to lose sight of the hands of the Muscovite with a personalized living space. As you know, to win all good, including "no noncommittal" sex after a friendly party with a fair amount of drinking. Do not rush to condemn a young man, it's the young, especially, as they say, "he is not guilty, she will come."
Circumstances were extremely successful for Lena: failed to get pregnant immediately (as she did not report in the early stages) and Sasha appeared decent man. In general, long before the birth of the child in the coveted three-room mansion became a full-fledged mistress Lena. And what became of-town beauty?
What is the difference, because everybody loves a winner! However, the birth parents did not come near Temko. Soon Sasha realized that feeling to that of the former mistress of doom, have not gone away, and she, in turn, was able to understand and forgive the treacherous lover. The correspondence, phone calls, meetings ... One day he confessed to Lena that loves another and does not know how to be - a life without her son is not.
Lena got worried, came in touch with family vozmutitelnitsey tranquility and shame, they say, you are my eye on my husband's luggage, and her husband has arranged a series of scandals under the "accompaniment" roaring Temko ... Lena kept the family, Sasha was "at her."
Community spouse is reduced to phrases like "pass the salt" and "Whose turn now to stack Temko? "Lena realizes whom her husband sometimes sad, but not" bother "in this regard: the main thing, its stay in the capital is not in danger. And Sasha ... Nothing will survive somehow.
View from the outside
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What would have seemed absurd not the story, it is not uncommon. If you allow the education and conscience, why not act in an ironic saying: "Who is first come, and sneakers?"
However, ladies, ventured into a similar, must foresee the consequences of a decisive step: they will never become the "number one" in the heart of the wife, as not to be the only one who shares his bed. In fact, the mountain is small: he did not dream man, but only a means to an end - the ones above "sneaker".
And if the soul warms notorious residence, a beautiful life, and other physical attributes of "happiness" - flag in hand! But if you respect him and myself, one day you say, "We both deserve more than we can give each other" - and released to the world. Often desperate wife connected as peacekeepers children.
Except as blackmail, this measure does not include: the man did not deny their children the benefit of others. Therefore, before a tragic appeal to conscience apostate "folder, then we throw! "- It is useful to think: if he chose another woman, whether your in the" services "?
"For the love we must fight! "
When Tatiana, effective purposeful woman learned that the wife of Igor appeared legitimate hobby on the side, it first made inquiries about the opponent. "Dossier" both pleased and puzzled. Firstly, Irina was young and beautiful, that did not add optimism.
But at the destroyer hearth she had a husband, which could be used as leverage by threatening to expose Irina. And there was methodical "struggle for marital happiness." House Tatiana led moralizing conversation with Igor shamelessness of modern young women, who tend to "mess with married men."
Then the conversation turns to the person: "If she changes her husband, then you will." The next stage - a person of Igor, which Tatiana responded pejoratively: "But who are you, but me need? "The husband remained silent for the most part, from time to time asking to leave him alone. Tatiana was so looking forward to a victory over Igor sweetheart as he stunned the revelation: "Tan, I live without it can not.
We're all still does not work, let's divorce? I promise to leave your apartment, I'll help any way I can, one request: Give consent to a divorce! Well, you yourself and me and harass Irina? "Insulted woman replied action: called her husband" supostatki "and opened his eyes to what is happening.
Efforts have reached the goal: Igor is no longer met with Irina - she stayed with her husband. And six months later, Tatiana and Igor left. The reason for the gap has become not just another crafty razluchnitsa, a wife realized that "there is no more attraction."
Looking from the outside: The most common reaction to married women on the news of the opponent - the latest in a shameless accusation and infringement of the "women's property", that is, her husband. For some reason it always comes out in their opinion that the alleged husband became innocent "victim" of someone else's evil passions. The idea that the head of the family and he nebezgreshen, angry wives did not attend. The most useless, which could in this situation to make hateful wife - to blame the new passion of her husband and try to present it not best to side.
From malicious attacks time offender not podurneet not poglupeet in the eyes of enthusiastic men, but "oratorsha" utters "the bitter truth", every angry word loses respect and sympathy from the husband. Blaming the spouse in poor taste on women - general lesson stupid, because once he fell in love with you. Another rash action - trying to attract "Allies" husband's rival, your friends, family and loved ones. Entering each new "participant in the events," it reduces the chances that a family will be able to maintain: since much matter made public, "a sweet couple" are not afraid that their relationship will be a shock for the family - everything is up to date.
And I must say, that in every way raspekanie nabedokuril relatives spouse looks pathetic and ineffective in nature. Remember how at the time of the case, "entered into a criminal relationship" fathers of families dismantled at Party meetings? Many have been able to preserve the "cell community" public boring moralizing? And if the head of the family lost his head and returned to the "native shores," back there with him conjugal love?
"I'll take his opponent to the mill"
Situations of this category do not need to invent or seek out familiar in biographies. It is enough to reveal a reversal of any "popular fiction" from the category of "family history" and the facts will fall like a horn of plenty: "My husband spree, and I decided not to give up: tracked down her opponent and ottaskala her hair (poured paint slapped cuffs - the options are different "Necessity is the mother of invention"). She was frightened, but her husband came back to me. "
The most "humane" way of reprisals against family vozmutitelnitsey calm childhood we have seen in the movie "It Happened in Penkovo" when beauty Larissa publicly poke fun at the heroine of Maya Menglet. Unpleasant sight, is not it? What to say, when the "terrible revenge" comes to manhandling ...
Looking from the outside: Admittedly, the method in most cases effective: rival flees, faulty communication stopped. The motives of her husband's return to the bosom of the family are clear: men hate women hysterics until whipping epilepsy, so the phrase "I can not answer for themselves" from the lips of his wife is sobering.
But, as in the above story, return it makes no sense of the newly erupted to his wife, and shame for her disruptive behavior. So celebrate young lady-warrior there is no reason, if a rival had suffered physical and material damage, the remnants deboshirka loses respect from her husband. It turns literally "life under the lash" ...
... Ye be not judged
At first glance it may seem that the article was written solely for the support of non-marital relationships. Not at all. We invite only one: do not rush to condemn those who are in such a difficult situation. Do not assume, though treacherous lovers just do that happily prancing and laugh at betrayed mate: they accounted for plenty of tears, anguish and ordeal.
And before it is safe to say: "There was nothing to get into someone else's family" - think - where is the guarantee that tomorrow you will not find yourself in their place? It is known fact that "God works in mysterious ways," "Lawless Heart", etc. etc. So sad story about the "I love married" can become your song.
And if you happened to be in the role of the left, the only problem - losing a loved one, to preserve the dignity and survive trouble with her head held high.
Let the sound naive, but it is better than a poet, do not say:
"Well, good-bye, and be happy, bird!
Nothing not to turn up.
Quarreled - can be reconciled.
Fall out of love - to love again.
And though the heart of grief is not easy,
I am almost a stranger in your destiny,
All the same for all the good that was,
Today bow to you ... "
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