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Flirting online: Learn to avoid serious mistakes

Opportunities to communicate online in the Internet are vast. Among the thematic forums, chat rooms and simply beloved ICQ sure you can find a very pleasant companion. For interesting phrases and fun emoticons do not notice how time passes, and the source is becoming more attractive.

And then we begin to make the most important mistake - invent "Him." It quickly becomes a companion for us courageous, cheerful, resourceful and beautiful. In another simply can not be. Can someone else to say it, to joke and to understand you? At such moments, you do not think that all this is a mirage and his own imagination.

Each woman creates ideal of man and believes he is somewhere there.

During the conversation online is easy to convince yourself that it is "he." The more that believe in a better way ... We want to communicate and believe inventing itself and giving the illusion of our interlocutor best qualities. Very quickly, this communication can lead to a stable opinion that you're in love.

With this very often occurs even when the sides not seen photo each other. So how can you not fall in love with an illusion created by your own imagination? First of all, communicating on the Internet, remember that at the other end is a living person. It can be anything - as a handsome and not quite.

Ask your buddy picture. If he does not send it, it will serve as a beacon that not all as smoothly as you want to present. Of course, beauty - it's not the most important thing, but the deception and the desire to cheat is already doing a portrait of your virtual acquaintance not be so ideal. And do not look for excuses to him. Believe only the facts, not their contrived explanations of what is happening.

Very often, when the virtual acquaintances there is a risk that you are deceived.

It is very easy to send someone else's photo, throw a couple of short years in age (or subtract) and write a couple of heroic events of his biography. Women tend to believe a lot, and sometimes all that they say men. If you have caught myself on the fact that it happened to you, you start thinking. Analyze the facts, compare them and ask your friend that any of the details.

Cheating is easy to open, we need only ask the right questions. And their women can come up with, you only think. Once you've seen photos and heard the details of the biography of the beloved companion, you can judge it more objectively. Now he has not come up with an illusion, and it is a real person.

It now is the time for more resolute action when it is time to translate into real life dating.

The sooner you do, the better. Acquainted already in the light of the sun or a romantic candlelight, you can find answers to many questions. But the longer the communication in the network, the more we begin to idealize and fall in love with an illusion.

The more you communicate online, the harder it is to meet later in life.

Fear of appearing "is not the same as the network" is stronger. And such a relationship, albeit virtual, it seems to exhaust itself. Not many after 5-6 months of communication is solved at a meeting of the Internet.

Although there are cases where it was after that meeting, the pair immediately go to the registrar. This means that online communication is not only the negative aspects, but also positive. If you do not give in to emotions, to listen to reason and facts, which are opened, you can avoid mental anguish.

Why are women so often fall in love with their virtual friends?

Because they see in their ideal. It's hard not to succumb to emotions and feelings, but it must be done in a relationship with a virtual man. Otherwise, things can be very sad.

With men, whether to seek reciprocity?

- I sought the favor of the Machine for nearly three years,

- Proudly told me my former classmate Alex. - And won. Now she is my wife ... In response, I boasted that his Sashik achieved in just 5 months. We laughed, and I sadly thought: was it worth it? ..

Love and willpower against pride

To get someone, you need to trample on their own pride. We need to forget about it and persevere to the target. Go and seek. Seek attention - versatile, indefatigable, tireless, ceaseless ...

- Barbara lived in the neighborhood, - says the 52-year-old Vadim. - As a child I did not pay attention to her. Is that, like all the girls tease and throw snowballs. But when she grew up, I fell in love. And I decided that it would be mine. However, Varya did not know, and to know at the time did not want to. She was walking with other young people, unaware of me- "youngster" (I was two years younger).

I did not give up: beat Cavaliers with friends Varina, threw her chocolates and flowers under the windows shouting about love ... Four and a half years it took me to Varya pay attention to me. And two more to persuade her to marry me. I do not regret anything. I think that is how it should happen. We have two children, and we still live together.

From friends - beloved in

When she asks "laid eyes" on the undergraduate Vovk, we could not understand why it is necessary. Vovk was hopelessly in love with Vic, who had an affair with the son of wealthy parents handsome Victor. Their dialogue was held against the background of constant sighs Vova the incomparable Victoria.

- Sveta! Why are you wasting your time on him? - Asked to "think again" girlfriend us. - Then, - she said. - Anywhere it from me to stay. Indeed, it is becoming Vovka friend who can "complain" to the vest, Sveta soon changed status. At some stage, Vova forgot about his unrequited love and made friends Svetka. Now they are found. About Vick he no longer remembers ...

TV, brandy, lemon ...

- Remember the video of the "Beasts", in which the soloist Roma running all over town looking for strawberries he liked the girls at the club? - Says Olga. - My husband and I was young there was a similar story. I was going to celebrate the New Year at the hostel. As luck would have it all girlfriend had left, and I was offered the feast to celebrate together buddy Alex. There was no choice, so I agreed.

And I take the opportunity (I guess that like me Lesha), start to act up. I demanded a TV set, the cognac and lemon (cocktail). Please note that it was 30 years ago - not only in times of real student of poverty, but also the total deficit (especially before the New Year). But Lyoshka, it should be noted, did the impossible.

I still do not know where he is on the eve of New Year's Eve got a TV and a "concert" arranged at the restaurant, which ran "get" cognac and lemon. And, maybe, said the truth - that all of this for his girlfriend. In any case, the new year I did the same cocktail of prescription gave me a girlfriend. And for the first time we drank cognac - "adults" ... And then we started dating. This year marked the 30th anniversary of married life.

And was it worth it?

By the way, I did not finish ... with Alex, I do not open up because we had a very friendly class and we all shared the sorrows and joys with each other. In fact, we met him in the 11th grade. And even now, after all surrounding the marriage and her "passion", he continued, "tamp wedges to me ..."

Statement also nothing comforting to say I can not. Two years after a passionate affair that followed my courtship, "wilted tomatoes." Love is gone, and now I can not clearly answer "what had to be killed so." Sashik I do not like ...

From love to hate

Well, if all efforts pay off, if the object of your passion with the same force falls in love with you, and you are extremely happy together. And if not? If the months and years are wasted? If he continues to treat you leniently, from conversation to conversation by repeating what you do with it is different and unlike what you value in life ...

And most importantly, seeking someone's favor, it is important to avoid the "consequences", one of which - hatred. - When a very long time for someone pursuing and step by step to lose hope for reciprocity, gradually starting to hate this man - says Julia. - For the fact that he comes to you. For the fact that he did not appreciate you, this (or this) sweet, witty, sexy, ever experienced the suffering of downtrodden love ...

Description of people "will achieve what no matter what"

There is a type of people who just let someone get. They did not stop at nothing, and when it went out and brought himself a new "victim", the "never rest on their laurels." They are constantly seeking someone, and achieving, lose interest and move to a new "object."

I do not know what to call this type of people. But the harmony and peace of mind - it's not for them. Such people consciously (or unconsciously) use certain tactics in obtaining reciprocity. Manifestations of feelings alone - open, others are more subtle ways. As a rule, they are making the object sighs persistently and systematically. From day to day. Following certain only one they understand the logic ...

I do not know whether to love these exorbitant effort ... Probably should, once people apply so much effort to achieve it. If you believe that love is always love, and the other allows himself to love, everything falls into place.

It turns out: the question for the unloving always - to allow or not to allow yourself to love?

Question for lovers is otherwise: you are lucky (allow) or luck (not allow)?

It turns out everything in love as in gambling: the card will fall ...