It may take a lot of time or a little, can escape for a month or a light-year, and that's the beloved meet, finally, with the spirit and ease because, among other things, in the most romantic moment asks, "Honey, how many men have you had before me ? "Of course, the first thought: My God, well, what's the difference, I'm with you now and, moreover, completely naked!
But for him it's important. Do not even try to understand. For many centuries the best research minds ,, anthropology and criminal investigators are trying to figure out why this man should find out.
And while no one has yet given a clear answer. This question is in the brain of a man in love always occurs spontaneously, unexpectedly and at the wrong time. Honest girl has nothing to hide, he thinks, and tries to catch her off guard issue. So for him, it is best to be prepared.
Of course, the main thing - do not think for a long time and do not start counting on his fingers ...
Because every finger, even the most progressive and liberal man will be less and less progressive and less thinking. Then the girl in front of a dilemma: to tell the truth, or what he wants to hear.
Of course, there is the young lady who just might say, "You're the first and only!", Without blinking even once did not even blush. And, most importantly, it will be true. But these little, firstly, and secondly, they usually do not seek - and so everything is clear. But the other 99% have to get out ...
Because for loving (!) Any number of men have more than one - that's a lot, and he asks only to hear ... See above.. So what's the answer? It is important that the response was relaxed, as, indeed, and the question, and the final, that is, without the development of themes.
There are many options, but only one rule - no numbers! They scare. And one more thing: any clarifying questions, such as: "You mean the official husbands, sexual partners, or just general all? "
If you want to develop the theme, it is better to go to the numbers.
And if you want to close the issue for ever, show a sense of humor.
You could say:
•With dignity:
"I am not an account! I'm not an accountant. " Let him think what he wants. There is not enough material for calculations, or that you are weak in math, or that you just do not have time. If he still persists and it seemed jokingly suggested "to count together," say as a joke, it is not necessary, he still does not know anyone.
• Flirty:
"And how much do you think the men appreciated my beauty at its true worth? "Here is his response to any risk, so it will have to think how to wriggle out and not run into a scandal of injured innocence. Upon reflection, he will calm down output that is appreciated by many, but only "by sight".
• Art:
"Last year, I snowboard, Arabian horses, Lamborghini, etc. Suddenly it began to rain, snow, pioneer team ... I do not have time to slow down, he (Arabian horses, Lamborghini, snowboard) suffered, I fell, hit her head, partly lost her memory and now it will forever remain a mystery to both of us. " If your favorite is not a fool, he will not drag you to a hypnotist to restore memory lapses. And if the fool, but still no sense of humor, then what for it is you need this? Can it even do not count!
• abstruse:
"101! Plus or minus one. In the binary system, of course. " Few men want to look like an idiot, and will try to find out how much it will be on your toes. And if he knows, then, most likely, little things like statistics, it generally is not interested. However, like many other things not related to the world of "high technology".
• Diplomatically:
"If I say a lot, it would be a lie if I say little, you would not believe ..." Why do you have to strain and calculate that in its concept a lot, but that is not enough? Leave him to make a choice, without going into details. A loving man will make the right choice. After all, in fact, he was so eager to believe you!
• Wisely:
"Let all those who came before you, even the men called hard! "Yes, yes, rough. But then, he was not interested in the exact figures, but merely its place in the series of numerals. And we do not tell lies, because the beloved, we are always in the first place! And finally:
• Honestly:
"It does not matter! "Well the truth is, if you do not sit together in the queue for venereal diseases, it does not matter how many there were, like, most importantly, why. We all have the right to, in the negative or positive experience. And we have the right to leave this experience in the past.
So it has historically, that man always unconsciously wants to be loved first. But for a woman it is much more important, that it was his last. Actually why women are less interested in the past and a great future.
But aiming at long-term relationships can be even family, a man wants to make sure that the woman for that "appropriate." That is not frivolous and is not easily accessible. Or maybe he was not sure of himself, and just wants to compare his and her sexual experience.
In any event, if the issue arose, the man something bothers. And the best - it gently and immediately to calm him down and not scare even more, and to translate the question into a joke.
Love and math does not get along too well, unless it is a love of mathematics.
Only one "numeral" can reassure us and warm heart - only! Say it often.
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